Oh bother

To every girl who feels alone and thinks a guy will make you feel better about yourself:

He won't.

The end.

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Okay, so I'm being silly. This is a half-truth though.

I think that there's an important lesson to life, and this is that there is no one in the whole world who can fill the empty spaces of your heart. There is no one who can make you whole again. There is no one who can make you feel valuable when you don't feel valuable all by your beautiful self.

I think the person who is right for you is the one who loves the quirks, inconsistencies, goods, and bads about you, and makes you feel like your on fire when you're around them. The best version of yourself comes out, and maybe they even inspire you to improve on those darker points of yourself.

But certainly, it will never be someone who poo poos you, who doesn't support your dreams and hopes and ideals, who treats you like a child or a little girl, and who doesn't like you for exactly who you are.

You need someone who respects you for you. Who loves that you're a crazy cat-loving, neon-coloured-outfit-wearing, banjo-tooting, singing-on-the-street, feminist-environmentalist-social-justice-hipster-woman, who loves life, laughing, and loving people. Who encourages you to be that crazy person. Because that's who you are! 

But if you don't love yourself as you are, how are you supposed to have a healthy relationship with someone else who loves you for the things that you don't like about you? Learn to love yourself for all you are first. You're not going to find what you're missing in yourself in somebody else.

The perfect relationship happens when you learn to accept yourself as you are right now first, and then someone else, who is equally confident in who they are by themselves, finds you, and the little jagged edges that make each of you perfect and unique fit together like the gears in a bicycle. You need some oiling every now and then as the rust and friction builds, but together, you move forward as jagged pieces along an immense and unfathomable path, spurring each other on in the journey of life.